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well... not necessarily. There was a high-priced prostitution ring in the Hermosa/Redondo/Manhattan beach area of LA that was busted a few years back, most of the women were suburban housewives.

How does one protect against sexually-transmitted diseases by going to the doctor frequently? By buying condoms from your doctor?

While the article has some good points, the pejorative nature of the language is indicative of a society in denial about its sexuality and sex in general.

I am a high end gay male escort and I can tell you, the market does not dictate the price of high end escorts, their performance does. high end escorts can charge that amount of money because they offer their clients far more than just sex. The best escorts can demonstrate genuine emotions for their clients, even if only for the time they are together. They can make their clients feel loved. Given the importance of human intimacy to everyone, I for one think escorting is a highly honorable profession.

I am not naive enough to think that society shares my beliefs, i just dont care. In most articles, TV shows and movies, "prostitutes" are depicted only slightly above kiddie diddlers, save one show called FireFly. In that show the "companion" is well regarded and in fact, licensed by the government. she is asked how she chooses her clients and how she can be with someone that is "ugly" and her answer is beautiful. She said she does not choose clients based on how they look, she chooses them based on if they have good energy and are kind people. So do I and I suspect the $5k escorts do too.

I find it amusing that articles such as these always focus on issues such as diseases one can catch and such. I expect that any college jock is likely to be at more risk than a high end escort. There is also a misconception that only "ugly" people have to pay for sex. What narrow minded thinking. I don't have to pay for sex but sometimes I do because I want what i want when i want it.

Its time for society to grow out of it's sexual infancy and see sex for what it is, a beautiful gift that two consenting adults can share, whether money transfers hands or not.

Being an escort has made me a better person. I have learned to be attracted to people more for what they are like on the inside rather than merely their looks.

Are there problems with the industry? Of course! But that is because society is in denial, treats sex workers poorly (in public anyway) and consequently the industry is full of nefarious people who do not have the escort's best interests in mind. If society could get over itself and legalize and regulate the industry, that would not be the case.

In the meantime, I will continue to learn and grow and celebrate sexuality.

"There was a high-priced prostitution ring in the Hermosa/Redondo/Manhattan beach area of LA that was busted a few years back, most of the women were suburban housewives."




Duncan, I think you are missing the point. Prostitutes cannot be "housewives" in the sense that they will never be in a committed, monogamous relationship with a husband as long as they are engaging in sex outside that marriage for money.

Yes, but they were other people's wives!

... since when do we consider husbands not husbands, when they stray or use the services of prostitutes?

I know we consider some double standards hardwired in our culture, but jeezum crow, how blinkered can one be?

Need I even say that loving husbands and wives prostitute themselves, if their kids need food on the table, and how they see each other as husbands and wives is more important than how we fit them into a traditional fidelity box?

If we had honesty, rather than pretensions to monogamy and "commitment", we'd have fewer people infected with sexually-transmitted diseases, fewer scandals regarding tainted blood donations, and a bit more compassion about how adults really live.

Not harshing on the author; rather desperately wishing for an unpacking of the assumptions we're making about sex work, sex workers, the lives of couples, and commerce.

While the article has some good points, the pejorative nature of the language is indicative of a society in denial about its sexuality and sex in general.

THIS was what was bothering me about the article - the writing's very patronizing. Thank you for putting it so succinctly into words.

I think both the article and the commentators are sliding around the fundamental issue, here. Huge prices can be paid for sex because huge, basic feelings are involved. Those capable of paying such huge prices usually have more complex wishes and the women or men capable of providing a fond memory and wish-fulfillment on multiple levels for them are rare. Save for later, perhaps, the question whether deep feelings for cash is ultimately a good exchange.

I really thought the point of the comment was that on entering the profession a woman, for the most part, has to realise that once a man who is not a client, but a potential "suitor" discovers how she makes a living the chances of a marriage proposal will greatly diminish. Thus the trade-off: high prices for a career in prostitution to compensate for the decision to more than likely forego the prospect of marriage.

There is a high-end market known as "High Dollar Hotties" that exist in our world of demimonde. Most of these ladies hold MAs and BSs with a few holding pHDs. This market of HDH's is well represented amongst the best of the best, highly educated, affluential, well-rounded ladies who can hold their own in any circumstances. Yes, we can and do demand higher rates than most and it is because we can.

One thing i've noticed amongst the many HDHs in the escort industry is.... their self-confidence and self-esteem goes way beyond any dollar amount any of them could command... and the gentlemen that frequent their services know they are getting the best of the best.

well that makes sense if they were someone else's wife..

... afterall, who would pay their wife for sex? even if someone knew his wife was a prostitute, i doubt she would charge him for sex... and i doubt he'd be willing to pay his own wife for sex.

May I know your age range? Can you be knowledgeable at 'the world and people' while young and physically appealing to the most picky eyes?

There have been several comments that point to the desirability of an intelligent, well-read prostitute, or "genuinely emotional" prostitute.

But would this command a premium in the market? Do clients respect the intellect of the person they are about to live out their fantasy with, engage in some bizarre sexual perversion with? Clients have got an hour and they are horny. They've got a desire. These clients can satisfy their intellectual cravings with a book, or over dinner. I suppose that some clients have a terribly dull life, or feel highly unfulfilled, and thus will pay for high-end, educated prostitutes. But could this be the majority? What would this say about the type of people who need prostitutes.

I will say nothing of the morality of prostitution, I am speaking to the apparent delusion that prostitutes are costly due to their ability to discuss politics or modern art. And, no, prostitutes, I am not calling you stupid, though perhaps a little delusional.

This post sounds utterly phony, the wistful fantasy of
some cackling nerd. Putting your head on the pillow for
money doesn't need an advanced degree in comparative
literature. I doubt horny execs with thousands to spend
care to parse the subtleties in Chekov's stories or
Ionesco's plays...BB

I imagine that you're the kind of person who goes to Olive Garden and considers it fine dining. Past the basic service, there are subtleties in presentation and technique that create a wide discrepancy in prices in exchange for all sorts of commodities. If you aren't capable of appreciating that, by all means, go with the McLay, but when you do appreciate these things, you're willing to pay top dollar to get them.

And thank you for sharing your willingness to support a sex trade that's founded on the exploitation and abuse of women and children, rather than one that empowers workers with financial freedom and choice. That's very bold of you.